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You be you, boo!

 My fellow Indian women,

All your life, being a girl, you're told by parents, brothers and then husband on what to wear, how to walk, where to talk, how to behave. Everything you say or do is scrutinized and censored because it supposedly defines how traditional you are or what family values you come from. You have always been told to strive to achieve what society dictates on what an acceptable image for a daughter, sister, wife or daughter-in-law is. You could be an engineer, doctor or a scientist, but if you can't cook or clean the house or can't be at your husband's beck and call, you're sub par, you are a disgrace with a poor reflection of your upbringing, you are supposed to consider yourself lucky that you are "allowed to" have a career and carve a niche for yourself in your field?! Who gives someone the right to bestow on you, your basic human rights that you are already born with?

Girl, you are a first class citizen too and you are given one life to live. So don't chisel away parts of yourself to seek others' approval and fit in a mold they make for you. Be who God made you to be. Live with self-respect, dignity, poise and grace, because as long as you can look yourself in the mirror and know that the path you chose is the right one, you will stand tall. All those that can't accept you for who you are, were never meant to be in your life. Others will scare you that it will be a lonely path, but don't you believe them. Don't live a sacrificial life with a defeated attitude and compromising your ideals at every turn. Because, you're born to shine, to dazzle, to simply be happy and live your life on your terms. If that's selfish, then be "selfish" and really hope that your daughter grows up to be "selfish" too. God has given you free will, who dare take that away from you?

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